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How Much Touching is Permitted While "Dating"?

(5 Min. 11 Sec. Reading Time)

This is intended to be instruction and guidance concerning unmarried men and unmarried women…

Too often today people see events on the national level and believe that we need to focus on the uppermost elements of civil government and society in order to affect change on a national level. Nothing further could be from the truth.

The truth of the matter is that the events done at the lowest levels of society are those that ripple onto the national scene and affect the direction of a nation.

Let's talk about "dating," where a man, young or old, is attracted to a woman, also young or old, and this attraction brings them together. This is a good place to start.

Let me just say this bluntly, what happens in the bedroom is what happens eventually on that national scene. There is a bottom up effect that is unavoidable and undeniable.

According to the Word of God, how our sons and daughters conduct themselves has not only familial repercussions, but leads to national trends as well.

The Bible verse I am referring to is Leviticus 19:29, which states in the King James Version…

"Do not prostitute thy daughter, to cause her to be a whore; lest the land fall to whoredom, and the land become full of wickedness."

This is one of the commandments that falls under the umbrella of Exodus 20:14 "Thou shalt not commit adultery," the seventh commandment given by God from Mount Sinai.

Now, why is this commandment important? An even bigger question is, why is the neglect and rejection of this commandment so important? Well, I am glad you asked.

So, let's take a look at a few other Bible translations before we continue….

(YLT) Thou dost not pollute thy daughter to cause her to go a-whoring, that the land go not a-whoring, and the land hath been full of wickedness.

(ASV) Profane not thy daughter, to make her a harlot; lest the land fall to whoredom, and the land become full of wickedness.

(Darby) Do not profane thy daughter, to give her up to whoredom; lest the land practise whoredom, and the land become full of infamy.

(MSG) Don't violate your daughter by making her a whore—the whole country would soon become a brothel, filled with sordid sex.

(ICB) You must not make your daughter become a prostitute. That only shows you do not respect her. If you do this, the country will be filled with all kinds of sin.

(ERV) Do not dishonor your daughters by making them become prostitutes. If you do that, your whole country will turn away from God and be filled with all kinds of sinful things.

And let's take a quick look at a general understanding of what this verse means…

(Jewish Virtual Library) "This law imposed a general prohibition on the professional prostitute, and the term came to include any woman who abandoned herself to any man even if not for pay, and states that "Whoever hands his unmarried daughter [to a man] not for the purposes of matrimony," as well as the woman who delivers herself not for the purposes of matrimony…"

Well, now we have quite a bit of information and instruction to work with, wouldn't you say?

As fathers, we are required to protect our children, in particular daughters, and not only teach them the ways of God but also provide accountability as they grow to maturity. If fathers fail to teach their children the commandments of God or fail to provide moral accountability to them they are derelict in their duties and God will judge them for their failures.

Our sons and daughters need to be instructed that intimacy has its proper place within marriage and only within marriage. Any intimacy between men and women outside of marriage is not only inappropriate, it is sinful and evil.

Too often, Christians find themselves in ungodly cultures and influenced by ungodly morals.

Christians are commanded to create a Christian culture influenced and defined by the laws of God. For the purpose of this article, we are talking specifically about how we are to instruct our children, both male and female, concerning physical intimacy with someone of the opposite sex that they find themselves attracted to.

Having said all this, let's state this subject simply and to the point…

No man can touch any woman in an intimate way that is not his wife. No woman can allow a man to touch her in an intimate way that is not her husband. No father can allow a man to touch his daughter in an intimate way that is not her husband. No mother can allow a man to touch her daughter that is not her husband. And the same goes for the reverse. No father or mother can allow their son to touch a woman that is not his wife.

The issue is with the ungodly concept of consent. This subject does not exist in the Christian faith. No one is allowed to consent to sin and evil as if it were a personal preference and choice. None.

In our modern times, it is normal for men and women who are unmarried to touch each other in intimate ways. You know what I mean. We are not talking about handshakes, fist bumps, and side hugs. We are talking about holding hands, intimate hugging, caressing, kissing, and much much more.

This is sinful. Until the woman is wife to the man, HE HAS NO RIGHTS TO HER BODY OR HER INTIMACY. Period.

We suffer from weak men and even weaker theology which is why so many young men, even within what is called "Christian circles," have become whoremongers. And equally so, why so many young women have allowed others to treat them as if they were whores. (Women that can be used and abused by anyone who wants to use and abuse them.)

God wants our men and women to be virtuous. But that requires that we act in accordance with God's commandments.

The only people who may read this that will be upset are those people who are full of guilt and have refused to repent of their own ways or those who reject God's standard in favor of their own.

Married men have a right to their wife's body, and married women have a right to their husband's body. Everything else is evil and sinful.

Fathers, if you have read this far. Do your job. Do not allow any man to dishonor your daughter. Do not allow your daughter to dishonor themselves. Do not allow your sons to dishonor any woman. You are God's roadblock to restrict and stop sin. Do your job or face the consequences.

When fathers refuse to do their job it has a national impact. A nation is not full of evil and sin because its nation's leaders have failed. It is full of evil and sin because fathers and familes have failed.

The power to influence the future is not found in Washington D.C. It is found within the family and specifically with the fathers.

So, what does this mean in plain language?

Keep your hands and every other body part to yourself until you are married, and then God wants you to remain forever obsessed with the husband or wife that you have. God does not want you just to enjoy your marital rights, He wants you to be always ravished with their love.

If you reject this fundamental doctrine, then you have no respect for your children, have no respect for God's commandments, and you want to destroy your nation…all those who embrace this doctrine love and respect their sons and daughters, respect God's commandments, and want their nation to prosper.